‘Love the Sinner, but Hate the Sin’ is Garbage Theology

I’m writing this primarily to my Christian friends, but my non/anti-Christian friends feel free to read on. It is often said that we are to “hate the sin but love the sinner.” I want to address this exegetical error in the wake of the supreme court decision and the resulting spread of this phrase by Christians.
The first question is; Does God hate the sin but love the sinner? Answer: No. He hates the sinner.

Psalm 5:5, “The boastful shall not stand before Thine eyes; Thou dost hate all who do iniquity,”

Hosea 9:15, “All their evil is at Gilgal; indeed, I came to hate them there! Because of the wickedness of their deeds I will drive them out of My house! I will love them no more; All their princes are rebels.”

Check out this link for more: https://carm.org/does-god-hate-anyone
Also, John Piper’s opinion on this is really worth listening to: http://www.desiringgod.org/interviews/god-loves-the-sinner-but-hates-the-sin

God is Holy. He cannot bear sin in His presence at all. As Piper points out in his short response above, this makes the salvation that He brings all the more astounding. His Grace that much more amazing. For, though He hates us who do iniquity, He takes us and by His love makes us “the apple of His eye” (Piper). God is not constrained paradox. People ask the elementary school question, “Could God make a stone so big he couldn’t lift it?” The answer is; yes He could miraculously make that stone. And then He could equally miraculously lift it. God hates the sinner. And God takes the heavy, stone heart of that sinner and turns that heart to flesh (Ezekiel 36:26) and makes him into that which He loves.

Second question; Should WE hate the sin but love the sinner.  Answer: Is that even possible for us? Are we holy such that we should or even could justly hate the sin? Hating someone else’s sin just makes us ignorant of our own sin. “Look at them! I can’t believe he would do that! Ugh, I hate that.. oh, but I love him.”  There is nowhere in scripture a call for us to hate another person’s sin.  It says in several places that we should hate evil. That is a call for us to turn OURSELVES from evil.

9Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. 10Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. 11Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit serve the Lord. 12Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. 13Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality. 14Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. 15Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. 16Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. 17Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. 19Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” 20To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. (Romans 12:9-21, ESV)

If you’re discouraged by the supreme court ruling and the state of what people call “marriage” then the best thing you can do is live righteously in your own marriage or in your own singleness.  You don’t need to celebrate the unrighteousness and depravity of others, but neither do you need to go spouting off at the mouth condemning people who you have no place or power to condemn.  I preach this to myself most of all.  Gentleness and self-control are fruits of the Spirit that I struggle with daily.

Let us not turn away from the truth of sin and the fact that God hates it and sinners.  But let us care most about the sin in our lives so that we can be effective light in a place clouded with false gospels and news that would be good if not for the lies disguised in it.


Holliday Lake Camping Trip; Things I Learned

I’ve been trying to get into camping so I can get the kids away from all of the screens in our lives (TV, tablets, computers, blah).  Plus, being in Virginia affords us many opportunities since there are so many great state parks around.  This weekend my two boys (7yo, and 5yo) and I went to Holliday Lake State Park.  This is a trip I booked about a month ago not knowing what the weather was going to be like.  Well, the forecast leading up to the trip foretold of rain.  Awesome.  Anyway, here are some things I learned on this trip.

Putting up a big tent by yourself is really hard


Yep, I had no help putting up this behemoth.  Parts of it are easy, but putting up the vertical poles without help is really difficult.  Luckily, at the time of this posting I put up the tent at home to dry it out and figured out that it’s a whole lot easier if I stake out the corners of the tent first, then do the poles, then restake the tent afterward.  This is probably something that seasoned campers already know, but hey, I’m new at this.  Lesson learned.

Knives Are Good

2015-04-26 16.32.30Making skewers, cutting cord, making lunch; the applications are many.  I usually carry a smaller pocket knife(CRKT Ripple II), but I brought by Kershaw Cryo II for this trip and it served its purpose and then some.

Rain really sucks

IMG_20150425_080153Being cold is one thing.  Being wet and cold really sucks.  I’m so glad I purchased these Coleman rain jackets at the last minute.  They did the job they needed to do and made hiking around in the rain a lot less miserable.  It wasn’t a picnic, but it wasn’t miserable.IMG_20150425_135021Another last minute purchase was this tarp.  I already had a larger one for under our tent and bought this one in the hopes that I could rig it as a shelter from rain which I was able to do with the help of some paracord I had laying around and shoved into my backpack.  So, we were able to cook some awesome burgers in the rain!

Anyway, despite the rain we were able to have a lot of fun and hope to camp more…  hopefully without the rain.




A Continued Discussion On Transgenderism, Causation, and The Mind

About a week and a half ago I posted an article on Facebook regarding transgenderism and its status as something to be treated rather than something to be indulged.  Here is the Facebook post, and here is the article. I’m very proud of the diversity of my friendships.  I’m friends both on Facebook and in person with several Christians and many non-Christians and numerous people who are not just atheist, but anti-theist.  So, I knew when first posting it that it would not be popular with some of my friends.  As I suspected, a lively discussion was started.  Time brings clarity, and there are some issues I’d like to clear up.  The purpose of this post is to continue the discussion and to address things that I did not address before as well as introduce ideas that are born of the passage of time.  I would definitely suggest reading the article and the comments on Facebook for the best context.

First, I’ll address a small issue.  It was stated in a comment that the article essentially just called transgender people crazy.  Are people who are anorexic, depressed or have other psychological issues just crazy?   I don’t think anyone who knows a person who struggles with depression or anorexia would call that person crazy.  More to the point, indulging these disorders instead of treating them would more closely resemble ‘crazy.’  I understand the idea of likening transgenderism to disorders is something many people will disagree with, but the point was that just because a person thinks or feels something about themselves does not mean that thought or feeling is the truth and is to be encouraged.  This is absolutely the case with anorexia.  It was also argued that in the case of anorexia a person’s health was in danger, but not in the case of transgenderism.  This is naive at best.  Is a person’s health in danger if they are depressed? If not, why do we treat it?  “We treat depression because a person feels bad and treatment helps them feel better!”  Does encouraging a person’s transgender status indeed help them ‘feel better?’   What about instances of suicide and deep depression?  What about cases in which a transgender person wants gender reassignment surgery that will permanently damage his/her body? What about the dramatic increase in the likelihood of suicide for those who undergo such a procedure?  What about children who want hormone therapy that irrevocably changes the course of their physical and psychological development and are obliged?   There are definitely health risks involved.
Next, I’d like to apologize for a misstep on my part and address it.  One commenter posted an article on androgen insensitivity syndrome stating,

“It is indeed possible for a female brain to be trapped inside of a male body as well as the opposite. Androgen Insensitivity is just one example of how the simple X and Y chromosomes in someones cells does not necessarily determine their gender. If you can have major external differences like this between genetics and physical traits, why is it so hard to understand that you can have developmental brain situations that result in a brain forming that has a different gender from the physical body.” 

I must admit I did not really read this article at all.  I just kind of glanced at it and moved on and that was wrong of me. I should have actually read it and addressed it, and would like to do so now.

It’s curious to me that this person posted a medical description of a disorder as support for arguing that transgenderism is not a disorder.  The article describes a syndrome in which “Mutations in the AR gene prevent androgen receptors from working properly, which makes cells less responsive to androgens or prevents cells from using these hormones at all.”   Furthermore, there are actual physical ramifications of this mutated gene.

“People with this form of the condition have the external sex characteristics of females, but do not have a uterus and therefore do not menstruate and are unable to conceive a child (infertile). They are typically raised as females and have a female gender identity. Affected individuals have male internal sex organs (testes) that are undescended, which means they are abnormally located in the pelvis or abdomen. Undescended testes can become cancerous later in life if they are not surgically removed. People with complete androgen insensitivity syndrome also have sparse or absent hair in the pubic area and under the arms.”

I think there is a subtlety here that gets lost in this discussion at large.  There are actual disorders that make gender identity very difficult.  However, there are a multitude of differences between such syndromes and what is currently accepted as transgenderism.  The commenter argued, “If you can have major external differences like this between genetics and physical traits, why is it so hard to understand that you can have developmental brain situations that result in a brain forming that has a different gender from the physical body?”   In the case of the posted article, however, there is a definitive phenotype (abnormal sex organs) for the disordered genotype (mutated AR gene).  This is not at all an example of what he is arguing for.  Perhaps he was referring to my earlier comment of males having a karyotype showing XY and females XX, therefore there is an absolute genetic difference no matter how a person feels.  I will readily admit this misstep on my part in the light of the posted article describing a disorder that changes sex organs and gender identity without being linked to the Y chromosome.  That still doesn’t support his argument that a female brain can be trapped in a male body and merely emboldens the distinction between a person born with androgen insensitivity whose mutated genotype leads to physical abnormalities that are in need of treatment and a person who is born a normal male or female and then later claims he/she is the opposite sex… and then possibly later changes his/her mind.

I’d like to now confront the issue of hormones and brain patterning.  I don’t dispute that there are differences between the brain patterns observed.  The question, however, is causation.  Are these differences causing the feelings of gender dysphoria?  Are the habits and behaviors changing the brain patterns?   Interestingly, in an article regarding the neurological implications of sexual sado-masochism psychiatric professor Aaron Kheriaty notes:

“The modern science of neuroplasticity reveals that our brains continue to change—to be molded—across our lifespan, in response to our behaviors, our relationships, and our life experiences. Our brains obviously influence our behavior. But the reverse is also true: our behaviors influence our brain. So our choices have neurobiological consequences: our behaviors hard-wire, and re-wire, our brain in ways that profoundly shape who we are and how we function.” [Emphasis mine]

From my reading, the question of the brain and causality is still not near being completely understood.  So, differences between brain patterns could possibly be explained, at least partially, as emerging from differences in behavior and brain rewiring.  Dr. Kheriaty also says,

“People mistakenly believe that the mind, the sovereign will, is in complete control. The body is just a tool, a sort of appendage, detached from the mind. …But the mind and the body do not work that way. There is no such mind-body split. Rather, the medical and psychological sciences are increasingly demonstrating that there is a profound and inseparable connection between mind and body. And the body—not just the mind—is obviously involved in sexual encounters. The body has its own laws and its own logic; the body has its own wisdom, and it operates on its own terms. The human body must obey the laws of biology, of neuroscience, and of human psychology. And when we push against these, the body will inevitably push back.”

It seems this is the way advocates of transgenderism treat the body.  The brain state is one way, and the body should be changed to reflect that (whether stylistically with dress and makeup or permanently with surgery).  The person feels a certain way that is opposite from the body, and the body needs to be flipped to reflect the way the person feels.  It just seems very destructive and opposite to the idea that the purpose of medicine is to heal and restore the body.

Finally, a common thought amongst people who oppose my thinking must be, “Do you even know any transgender people?  What if you had to sit down and eat or hang out with a transgender person?”

I think this is a very poignant and justified question for Christians who oppose these ideas and who claim to follow Jesus.  Jesus routinely ate with people who were social outcasts.  People enjoyed eating with and being with Him and you get the distinct picture that He did not make them feel like lesser people but made them feel loved by Him and by God.  It is important that we as Christians do the same.

I have eaten with a hung out with transgender people and I’d like to think they didn’t feel awkward around me and that I treated them like I would any other person.  I won’t deny that at times it’s awkward for me depending on the conversation, but I try to keep this in check by knowing that my awkwardness is mine to own and that these are people made in the image of God just like we all are.

I pointed out at the beginning of this post the diversity of my friends and what they believe.  As a result of this I routinely, almost daily, sit and eat with people who regard my identity as a Christian with enmity.  I have for a very long time.  People who make disparaging remarks about Christians and monotheism.  People who might call me bigot, hateful, deluded, stupid and several other lesser appropriate things.  They might have even done this or do this when I’m not around.  But I really don’t care.  I liked and still like being with them.  I like laughing with them.  I like hearing about their families.  I like enjoying life with them.  I would have it no other way.  We are not told as Christians to distance ourselves from those who oppose us.  We’re told to love our enemies.  We’re led by example to eat with and love those who are outcasts.  We are to tell them that they are made in God’s image and are loved by us and by God.  American Christians fail at this an awful lot as we resist the changing moral norms.   We can be an effective resistance while being effective disciples of Jesus and effective human beings who love other human beings.  It’s not just possible, it’s imperative.